“Your familiar memories related to your known world “re-mind” you to reproduce the same experiences.”
― Joe Dispenza
It is a common practice to deny emotional pain to be functional in our lives. As human beings, we are not only resistant to dealing with our own emotional wounds, but we are even hesitant to have a discussion on the topic. By not addressing our emotional wounds, we unconsciously build up a volcano of emotional pain ready to burst at any time.
We are living in crazy times, aside from our day to day experiences we are also confronted with – Wars, terrorism, social injustice, hunger, and climate change just to name a few. Today, there is really no way anyone can escape or protect themselves from the emotional imbalance of the world. So the question is how are you able to heal your emotional wounds to manifest happiness in your life?
Emotional wounds are one the most common causes of stress, trauma, anxiety and other psychological disorders. What are emotional wounds and what causes them? It varies, it can range from being involved in an abuse relationship, to losing someone close to your heart. Memories of painful events like these recirculate in our minds every day, causing physiological disorders or as we call them, emotional wounds. So how can we heal from our feelings, thoughts and experiences and reclaim your lost happiness?
How to Heal Your Emotional Wounds
To heal your emotional wounds, it is important to revisit the root cause of your pain on your conscious awareness. The goal is to heal the wounds by changing the outcome of that incident which has caused hurt to begin with. Harnessing negative emotions of these painful events will only magnify the pain. Your aim is to heal your emotional wounds so that you can elevate your spirit. You can start today by practicing these steps.
The following is a list of steps to heal your mind, body and soul.
1. Be Conscious when an Emotional Wound is Present
Don’t get caught up in a thought prison! Every event that caused you an emotional wound, or current memories of an incident recirculating in your head, now in the present moment should be observed rather than dwelled on. How we deal with negative memories or situations makes a difference between keeping the past alive or choosing to make peace with it now. Feelings such as anger, hurt, regret, and guilt feeds negative emotions. If you get caught up in those feelings you may experience anxiety, stress, and/or low self-esteem which can lead to depression. Instead be aware whenever you experience any negative feelings, affirm to the self, you will not allow any negative emotions to co-exist in your being.
“Your thoughts are incredibly powerful. Choose yours wisely.”
― Joe Dispenza
The way to heal yourself is by confronting your current feelings. Identify the root of the problem, learning from it and truly forgive yourself and others who may have caused you pain. Release and let go!
2. Understand Your Emotional Wounds
As cliche as it may sound, everything does happen for a reason. We must try to understand our emotional wound, the pain they have caused you and why it happened. Take away the lesson, 99% of the time childhood incidents lead you and others to make poor choices and that is totally okay. We hurt others without realizing it because we too have been hurt. You can tell what a person has been through by their behavior.
“Can you accept the notion that once you change your internal state, you don’t need the external world to provide you with a reason to feel joy, gratitude, appreciation, or any other elevated emotion?”
― Joe Dispenza
Once you understand this, you start developing a whole new approach to perceiving these events, including building a strategy to heal them. Allow to forgive yourself and others to make peace with the emotional wound so that you can set it free. Trust me you will feel a lot happier and lighter. Learn from the mistakes and don’t take things personally. Drop the ego, approach the situation from a place of love and compassion for yourself and others.
3. Take charge of your Thoughts
Realize that thoughts or memories do not have any power on their own unless we give them power. When we think about events that happened in the past, you can choose how you view them. If allow them to hurt you, you will continue the cycle of pain. Refrain from viewing yourself as a victim of any circumstance. Instead, empower yourself by taking control of your life by living fearlessly. Heal your mind by choosing to cope with any situation in a positive manner.
For example, a memory of an event such as a breakup with an ex-boyfriend/ex-girlfriend keeps recurring, and we justify these thoughts by saying we are waiting for them to apologize to us. This reaction to a thought or memory is toxic and causes an emotional wound. Thinking about events repeatedly and justifying your habit of thinking only delays your healing process. If you want to be free of the past, then try to get rid of these toxic thoughts.
“Your thoughts and feelings come from your past memories. If you think and feel a certain way, you begin to create an attitude. An attitude is a cycle of short-term thoughts and feelings experienced over and over again. Attitudes are shortened states of being. If you string a series of attitudes together, you create a belief. Beliefs are more elongated states of being and tend to become subconscious. When you add beliefs together, you create a perception. Your perceptions have everything to do with the choices you make, the behaviors you exhibit, the relationships you chose, and the realities you create.”
― Joe Dispenza
Your goal should be to neutralize the story of the event in such a way that it loses its control over your thoughts. Let’s face it–you cannot change your past; however, you can modify the way you react to it.
4. Love Yourself and Be Kind
Try not to blame yourself for the events that caused your emotional wounds. Learn to love yourself despite your vulnerabilities, your weaknesses, and your shortcomings.
“Your personality is made up of how you think, act, and feel. It is your state of being. Therefore, your same thoughts, actions, and feelings will keep you enslaved to the same past personal reality. However, when you as a personality embrace new thoughts, actions, and feelings, you will inevitably create a new personal reality in your future.”
― Joe Dispenza
5. Take Responsibility for the Incidents and Move on
You should try to re-evaluate the incidents that caused you emotional pain and deduce whether you had any responsibility for the events that took place or did not have anything to do with them. For example, the death of a loved one can cause severe emotional wounds, but you need to understand that death is inevitable–you could not have stopped it at that time nor can you change what is happening now. You do not have any authority over the incident, so the best thing you can do is to let it go.
“Reason this: When you think from your past memories, you can only create past experiences. As all of the “knowns” in your life cause your brain to think and feel in familiar ways, thus creating knowable outcomes, you continually reaffirm your life as you know it. And since your brain is equal to your environment, then each morning, your senses plug you into the same reality and initiate the same stream of consciousness.”
― Joe Dispenza
This understanding will not only help you regain your confidence and heal your emotional wounds, but it will also create a sense of responsibility so that you are cautious in the future.
6. Find Yourself for Ultimate Freedom
One of the critical steps to healing your emotional wounds is finding yourself. If you let your past define you, you might never be able to comprehend your full potential. Letting the past define you will never help you in the present because it’s just like wearing your childhood clothes–now that you’re all grown up, they won’t fit.
“Meditation opens the door between the conscious and subconscious minds. We meditate to enter the operating system of the subconscious, where all of those unwanted habits and behaviors reside, and change them to more productive modes to support us in our lives.”
― Joe Dispenza
You must understand that you’re not the product of the painful memories that haunt you. Your personality does not depend on the events that happened in the past. Although thoughts and memories arise in your mind, they are not you. Once you understand that finding yourself—better yet, redefining yourself—provides the ultimate path that leads to emotional freedom, you will also understand that the pain of emotional wounds as compared to the vast capacity for feeling other emotions is just a like a drop of water compared to the sea.
7. Seek Professional Help
If you feel any event from the past is haunting you and not letting you live your life freely, heal your emotional wound by taking the time to speak with a psychologist or counselor. It’s always good to be able to talk to someone without worrying about judgmental remarks.
Moreover, professional psychologists respect your privacy and have an obligation not to leak the information that you share with them during sessions. They can also provide you with insight on why you feel a certain way and how to cope with emotional wounds.
“Warning: when feelings become the means of thinking, or if we cannot think greater than how we feel, we can never change. To change is to think greater than how we feel. To change is to act greater than the familiar feelings of the memorized self.”
― Joe Dispenza
8. Learn the Lesson
An optimistic approach to looking at your emotional wounds is that every event that causes pain leaves an experience. Some emotional scars make you compassionate, others increase your mental strength and create a shield against the pain. The fact is every wound leaves an imprint on your life.
“To be happy with yourself in the present moment while maintaining a dream of your future is a grand recipe for manifestation. When you feel so whole that you no longer care whether “it” will happen, that’s when amazing things materialize before your eyes. I’ve learned that being whole is the perfect state of creation. I’ve seen this time and time again in witnessing true healing in people all over the world. They feel so complete that they no longer want, no longer feel lack, and no longer try to do it themselves. They let go, and to their amazement, something greater than they are responds—and they laugh at the simplicity of the process.”
― Joe Dispenza
As human beings we are prone to experience emotional wounds, the key is not allowing them to take control of our lives. Although we can’t entirely eliminate their existence, we have the power to transform experiences into something positive. There is no question that you too can heal your emotional wounds. Let your strength com from sources such as love, kindness, and compassion. Let go of what no longer serves you and make room for self-love. Be open up to new horizons, elevate the mind, body, and spirit. You will surely find out how blissful it is to radiate positive energy within your being.
Have you ever felt emotionally wounded? If so, what did you do to heal your emotional wounds? Share your experience with us in the comments section below.
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